"I feel like I'm in love alone."

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Last night, I suddenly received a message from my good friend: She was always optimistic and cheerful, and even said something so sad and pessimistic. After asking why, I realized that her efforts in this relationship had never been answered. One day, she came home late after working overtime, but found that the door was locked. She made countless phone calls to wake her asleep boyfriend, but he said something chilling to her: I thought you were home, so I locked the door. From that moment, she realized how dispensable she was in front of this person. Zhihu saw a question: When should we fall in love, when should we stop losing? Among them, the highest response to praise is: obviously talking about love, but feeling very lonely. It is said that love is a matter for two people. When you are clearly in love, but feel lonely, this may be called "emotional neglect." In fact, many people are suffering from emotional neglect, but they always think that this is just an exhausting period of love. Only when you don't care about change or remember the details, can you show your true feelings. In details, a person must be more real than those superficial sweet words. At the beginning of love, he will remember many of your hobbies and habits, he will soon find your unhappiness and occasionally lack an expression. But I don't know when he started to ignore these choices. Xiao Xi is a girl who is easy to work and has trouble. At the beginning, she played a passive role in that love, as the lyrics said: There is nothing to be afraid of a spoiled person. At a dinner, he never considered the dishes she couldn't find nearby, nor did she see her face get cold, or even the cup was empty for a long time. Until then, she realized that even if everyone saw her change, the person around her who had provided her with food and cared for her could not see her. I don't know when it will start, you won't even notice my joy and sorrow. People say that two people who have been together for a long time can understand each other's eyes and movements without talking. But why do you do the opposite of yourself? In fact, it is not that he does not understand you more and more, but that he does not want to understand you anymore. This is called emotional neglect. The root of the contradiction lies in the event itself, not the emotional needs. Many people say that girls are good at it. Although they have explained it countless times, this is just one way they get more attention, but some people still don't understand. Sometimes this is not an argument, but an attitude. No couple in this world has ever blushed for anything big or small. This is why some people are more quarrelsome and have deeper feelings, while others are more quarrelsome and break up. Robin Gilmer, a psychology researcher at Lancaster University in the UK, said: In short, for young people, they must spend more time to stay emotional. Singing, disco dancing and loud music are all environments they use to stimulate their emotions. Then a fan asked me in a personal letter: Not long ago, he thought he had a dispute with him on a small matter. He said a lot of things, but all he said were right or wrong, the context of things, but he didn't say to me from the beginning to the end "Don't be unhappy". In fact, I know all the main principles. Even if he didn't say that, I knew right and wrong, but I just wanted to hear a few words he loved. We are not yet young enough. We can tell right from wrong. It may take a long time, you must have long forgotten what caused the quarrel between the two people, but you can clearly remember each other's attitude at that time. Because this matter is not important in itself, there are too many trivial things to mention. But the attitude of the other party not giving up before winning or losing is enough to hurt the other person's heart. Neglected emotional needs will be the last straw to crush love. Friends are closer and more reliable than lovers. There are two extreme situations of love around them: some people fall in love, as if they have disappeared from the circle of friends, no matter what they do, they can't find him. Some people fall in love, just as they did not, and still do it all by themselves. In short, for young people, they must spend more time to stay emotional. Singing, disco dancing and loud music are all environments they use to stimulate their emotions. Then a fan asked me in a personal letter: Not long ago, he thought he had a dispute with him on a small matter. He said a lot of things, but all he said were right or wrong, the context of things, but he didn't say to me from the beginning to the end "Don't be unhappy". In fact, I know all the main principles. Even if he didn't say that, I knew right and wrong, but I just wanted to hear a few words he loved. We are not yet young enough. We can tell right from wrong. It may take a long time, you must have long forgotten what caused the quarrel between the two people, but you can clearly remember each other's attitude at that time. Because this matter is not important in itself, there are too many trivial things to mention. But the attitude of the other party not giving up before winning or losing is enough to hurt the other person's heart. Neglected emotional needs will be the last straw to crush love. Friends are closer and more reliable than lovers. There are two extreme situations of love around them: some people fall in love, as if they have disappeared from the circle of friends, no matter what they do, they can't find him. Some people fall in love, just as they did not, and still do it all by themselves. In short, for young people, they must spend more time to stay emotional. Singing, disco dancing and loud music are all environments they use to stimulate their emotions. Then a fan asked me in a personal letter: Not long ago, he thought he had a dispute with him on a small matter. He said a lot of things, but all he said were right or wrong, the context of things, but he didn't say to me from the beginning to the end "Don't be unhappy". In fact, I know all the main principles. Even if he didn't say that, I knew right and wrong, but I just wanted to hear a few words he loved. We are not yet young enough. We can tell right from wrong. It may take a long time, you must have long forgotten what caused the quarrel between the two people, but you can clearly remember each other's attitude at that time. Because this matter is not important in itself, there are too many trivial things to mention. But the attitude of the other party not giving up before winning or losing is enough to hurt the other person's heart. Neglected emotional needs will be the last straw to crush love. Friends are closer and more reliable than lovers. There are two extreme situations of love around them: some people fall in love, as if they have disappeared from the circle of friends, no matter what they do, they can't find him. Some people fall in love, just as they did not, and still do it all by themselves.

I think it's hard to find my good friend after falling in love, because she is a typical Pisces girl. But the fact is not what I think, she still often appears at various parties between friends, and never brings her boyfriend. She is often teased: Will your boyfriend be assured to let you go out alone? She also smiled and said, "How long have we been friends? Why don't you feel relieved?" Later, once, an emergency happened at her house. She called me for help for the first time while crying. When I helped her with everything in the house, I couldn't help asking her: Did your boyfriend never ask you something urgent? Until then, she told me that the way they got along was not to interfere with each other, otherwise he would be impatient. In order to stay with him, she found a house, repaired the plumbing, and solved all the problems herself, so as not to cause him any trouble. When an emergency happens, her friend is always closer and more reliable than her lover. In fact, if you really love someone, you will definitely want to integrate into her circle and life. Two people need common space and privacy, but this does not mean that they can not interfere with each other's lives. This is not only a neglect of emotions, but also a resistance and negation of intimacy. To put it plainly, this is not careful enough, so open one eye and close one. In intimacy, if one side starts to give up and escape this intimacy, while the other side compromises, this trend of love is certainly incorrect. As Teacher Lu Qi said before: When a partner listens to his strengths, he feels that the person is not bad, and he wants it. If this person does not listen to you and is unwilling to change for you, you will feel that this person is snoring too much. Over time, not only will you begin to ignore each other in your life, but you will also turn a blind eye to him emotionally. You will find that those who are more sane, considerate, and not crying are more likely to be emotionally ignored. When two people are together, you must know: you can quarrel, but you cannot speak; you can have conflict, but the emotional needs of the other must be greater than the facts. You should not be an unreasonable person, but you should never be an unreasonable person. In the last sentence, Lu Qi wrote: 38 pets, do n’t stop, you can participate in the lottery when calculating the consumption of the love club, the highest cash return is 3888! Get involved quickly